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10/06/2009

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I totally agree with everything you said, but I think you missed an option - or at least a perspective. Your entry seemed to really be aimed at women and the choice of whether they go back to work after having a baby. What about the male side of the equation? My husband and I faced the same challenges and decisions that you discussed. Our decision was for me to go back to my career (not job), and for my husband to stay home as the primary caregiver. It was a good choice for us because: 1)I had a career, he had a good job, 2) financially it made more sense, 3) he is not as "type A" as I am and is better dealing, calmly, with taking care of a child full time and letting her be a child (like going headfirst down the slide....which would have given me a panic attack).

Thanks so much for the comment.I tried in the post to represent thinking beyond what used to be the traditional model. I will try even hard to ensure that I represent all points of view and keep myself in balance on this issue!

(I had to think far back on the slide discussion, but I think I was ok with either end first).

I agree with the "Other professional trying to maintain work/life balance." There should be greater consideration of fathers' options. My husband is much more interested in staying home than I am, but right now we cannot afford for him to do so. In the future, I'd like him to have the option of working part-time. I have already been asked whether I'd like to work part-time, but my husband's management team has not broached the topic with him. Nor does he think that they would respond favorably to such a request. In his opinion, fathers aren't allowed to request flexible schedules to meet family needs. Only mothers have such options. Not fair!

Great point! We should never get caught in stereotypes. It's up to us as individuals to fight them and make sure that our management understand as well. It was great to see a few posts about stay-at-home dads as viable options or desires. Progress

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