As we live through these whirlwind weeks of family, friends and assisting (only where he asks) my son get out the door and onto the Appalachian trail, I am seeing a number of his friends from school. None are students anymore and many are at different stages of their work-life growth. But what is consistent is that they are all still starting out.
I'm tempted to quickly jump into my traditional set of questions:
- "Have you been advancing in your job?", "What are your longer term career goals?"
- "How does all that fit within your life goals?"
But I'm working hard to not do that. Why? For the same reason I didn't like being asked that ever-present High School question: "What are you going to do when you graduate"? Wrong question! Right statement: "So you are off to college. Learn all you can. See all your can. Grow up. Along the way, all that life and work stuff will become more important and you'll make it happen."
So - my questions aren't for everyone all the time. I just ask about work and if they like it. I ask about their life situation and if they are happy.
And when they are, I am too.